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What happened to my best friend??? She's a totally different person right now. I'm her maid of honor and she's so unhappy with my "performance" in the role that I think she's considering firing me!
I'm getting ready to start a new job and I'm completely stressed out but it seems she doesn't care and is only worried about the wedding.
HELP !
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Eh...she may need a wake up call. A lot of brides assume that because their wedding is the most important thing happening in their lives that it is also the most important thing happening in everyone else's lives. Try explaining to your friend that while you are pleased to take part in the wedding, you do have other concerns and she needs to respect that. Good luck!
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Great advice, NtB! You're quite the diplomat... I agree that a calm explanation is the best route.
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I just had the exact same issue. Just got back from wedding of best friend. She lives in the uk and I'm in the usa. Knew from the start it would be a problem. Had major issues with the dress. She asked somebody else to organise the bachelorette party and I said it would be ok since i wasabroad and it would be hard for me to organise. Kept asking over the phone what I could do to help and she said everything was sorted. I got to Englandand had to divide my time between her and my family ( I have a large extended family.) I made the mistake of telling her I couldn't be there for a thank you lunch she arranged after the wedding and she basically stopped talking to me, made me feel uncomfortable etc. I did the best I could but she delegated all the duties to everybody else. I then found out she's been talking about me on another forum and what a bad friend I am. Been crying for last 2 hours. Am extremely heartbroken. Sorry. Had to get that off my chest. Don't know what to do now/how to talk to her.
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That's so tough! I don't get it when the bride becomes such a pain. I'm a bridesmaid in an upcoming wedding and she's dumped a lot of the planning on me. I have a full-time job and a life, too, but she's not being very understanding. I want to help her when I can, but I can't do everything for her. I'm not a wedding planner!!!
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I finally had a talk with the bride and told her I'm happy to help but I'd like to pass along some of the work to the other bridesmaids so I'm not stuck with all of it.
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I think that you should just get her a nice bottle of wine, maybe one with both of your pictures on it so you guys can just sit and discuss whats going on with your "performance". You can get a great bottle from personalwine.com and i think with a couple talks you guys can work it all out.
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I understand your pain. My friend is getting married for the 2nd time and guess who gets to be the MOH? Lucky me. I have 3 kids two of whom are still in diapers and live almost 100 miles from her. Anyhow I offered to host a bridal shower and she sent me a list of 50 people when she knows I have been unemployed and NONE of her other bridesmaids offered to pitch in AT ALL! So about a thousand dollars later we had the shower. Her fiance showed up towards the end of the shower and brought me flowers as a thank you I appreciated them and told him so. tghen he proceeded to sit in the middle of everything and have cocktails while my husband and I and one of MY friends (an older woman in her 50's) tried to take care of my 2 babies and get everything cleaned up (I had had the shower at my elderly mothers home as it was close to the bride). We still had to drive 100 miles home that night so my husband could work the next day. After all of that she called to ask me if I had sent an email or called her fiance th THANK HIM
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(CONTINUED) for the flowers. Also, she is having a destination wedding and is now upset because my husband and children will not be attending due to childcarre and financial issues. She wanted me to fly out a nanny and put her up in the hotel for the weekend so I could be at her beck and call. I am really soory to vent all of this but I jsut haad to let it out somewhere. I will be there to see this wedding through but I really don't know if we will be as close as we were before this ever again.
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